I know I’m really struggling when I can’t write anything meaningful
pain
Sad Forever
I’m not angry anymore . Just sad
The reality of love
“When you love someone
You have to face the fact that you can lose them”
You can’t handle me
There is nothing more heartbreaking than finding out your ugliest layer of self is too ugly for someone you love to handle
The truth about fairytales
“We make our own fairytales only when we have to”
A tired heart
I am tired my heart is tired
I don’t know how long I can do this life thing
I wish I was someone’s first choice
I always wondered why it hurt so much when my best friend started treating me differently and another girl better in standard 3. I always wondered why all the guys I ever liked repeatedly choosing someone else stung so much . Why my own parents unconsciously giving me a harder time than my sister broke my heart. Why it hit me so hard when a boy who i had drawn away from pulled me back in only to ghost me for his ex girlfriend .
Why i felt a hole in my heart when my best friend in high school repeatedly chose her boyfriend over me.
It hurt because I was never first choice . No matter what I did, no matter how nice I was or how hard I worked,! everyone I’ve ever loved have knowingly or unknowingly chosen someone else . And any time I thought I was first choice was really just a narrative I was forcing in my head . That’s all I ever wanted . And I guess it’s taken looking back to see the pattern . The missing link . That’s why I’ve been telling everyone I won’t get married . Sincerely it’s not that I don’t want to . I’ve always adored the idea . But I guess one of my biggest fears has been the realization that I truly don’t believe that anyone could choose me . Especially not forever . That’s my biggest heartbreak. The downfall of nearly all the relationships in my life always came down to a choice I often didn’t get to make. That desire to be chosen made me do a lot of stupid things . I was really trying to force things . Desperate for the satisfaction of knowing that not only was I the option but I was also the choice in the end . And in that maybe just maybe I’d feel like I was enough, for the first time in my life. Until then I don’t know how I’ll ever have even a glimmer of a chance to heal
The stages of depression
This world gave me way more pain than I could have ever bargained for or predicted. The denial, the grief, the anger and the sadness . That’s what the last 8 years felt like . First I didn’t understand what was happening . When I finally did I couldn’t process it, I didn’t want to process it. Then I became angry at everything and everyone . In the process I hurt not only those around me but myself . In fact there’s no one I’ve hurt more than myself . The anger was the most destructive . Mostly because it is overpowering to the point that you end up wrecking more havoc then you initially intended . I lashed out until it felt like I had nothing left . Once the turbulent anger filled phase slowly came to an end , the sadness and regret kicked in. For the first time I could see the damage I had caused clearly . It was neatly packaged in scars on my thighs, forearms and wrists . In pitch dark memories and my conscious screaming , what on earth did you do . It was the silence and empty inboxes because I didn’t have anyone close to me left . It was a google history filled with pill combinations and ways to end the pain permanently. It was brutal and the rudest of awakenings . This conundrum of events insured that the sadness wasn’t shallow . It ensured that the sadness at times hit even harder than the anger . It came with tear stained pillowcases and a feeling of deadness one would have to have lived through to ever begin to imagine . It came with giving up the photography that calmed me and the writing that helped me escape to any universe I wanted to create . The sadness blocked all imaginable entrances . In the process I lost my ability to see light that wasn’t tainted with darkness
The things we do for the people we love
And maybe this pain
Is the price you pay for supporting the dreams of people who never supported your own.
The struggle no one sees
“The problem is feeling alone in a room crowded with people I love “ – ruby dhal